I surround myself with people who are fun, kind, supportive, emotionally generous, creative, funny, and insatiably curious. We pursue our curiosities alone and together.

I spend time cheering and coaching my three adult birth sons and one heart-son from the sideline. One finished college and flew the coop. Two are still at home; one in college and another taking a year and will start college in the fall. They are all brilliant, funny, wonderful, and exasperating all rolled into one.

I laugh a lot. I spend time with family and friends. I take care of myself, emotionally and physically. I approach challenges with courage and chutzpah, and I am a world champion lemonade maker.

I write. I'm a lyrical, imagistic, magically real poet first. I also write myths, folklore, and other forms of prose. I'm working with a friend on a translation of Persian poetry. I love learning about Persian culture through its poets and language. For money, I write for scientists, and I also tutor folks in reading/writing, especially students with learning difficulties.

I love to spend time wandering in nature. I also enjoy documentaries: history, science, arts, etc. I also listen to podcasts and loud music while I improve my home and create. I am currently obsessed with my new scroll saw.

I created my own Sci-Fi TRPG and people have even played it; I'm in the process of prepping it for consumer use. I play video games, but I am not obsessed; I like to play a story out.

I'm a mix of introvert/extrovert. Dating is not about staving off loneliness. It’s about fun and getting to know someone.

People I date listen and ask questions and so do I. That way, we learn more about one another. Like, I wonder why beards are back in fashion in a big way? Is it a "Game of Thrones" or "Vikings" thing?

Ultimately, I want to find a long-term partner (emphasis on partner). It takes time, patience, honesty, and a willingness to let someone down gently when it just isn't working. It's so disrespectful to "friend zone" someone with a text or by ghosting them. I won't do that to you and require you to do the same.

I date people who love to have fun, are insatiably curious about the world, still find awe in small moments, follow their passions and curiosities, are generous with their time and energy. They are kind, patient, give a shit about the world around them, love themselves, know what they want, possess good boundaries, are mature, are self-sufficient, value compassion, and prefer to understand and be understood rather than being right.

I date people who are spiritual, atheist, agnostic, other, but I don't tend to be compatible with people who are deeply devoted to an idea of a single, commanding god.

People I date also need to have a modern view of gender and sexuality. I am sapiosexual and monogamous. In other words, I don't consider gender when I date someone, and when it gets serious, I am devoted to that one person.